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    Theresa Lode or, simply “T”, had her world turned upside down and inside out when her son was diagnosed with ADHD and a few other goodies. Her choice- follow the doctor's orders....or trust her heart and delve into the world of Free Range Education. She chose the latter...

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School or prison?

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I will admit, I was a little nervous snapping these with my iPod as we drove past.  If I saw a cop, I don't think I would have out of concern for being pulled over.   What's wrong with this picture that a law-abiding citizen would even give a second thought to snapping a picture?  (Besides the iron gates, that is.)

I will admit, I was a little nervous snapping these with my iPod as we drove past. If I saw a cop, I don’t think I would have out of concern for being pulled over.
What’s wrong with this picture that a law-abiding citizen would even give a second thought to snapping a picture? (Besides the iron gates, that is.)

Every time I drive by the local high school, I am struck with the similarities between it and the local juvenile jail. Actually, I think the school has more barriers and designated mousey corridors. (A friend of mine learned the other day to never, ever, use the “buses only” lane if you’re late dropping off your child. Even if there are no buses around. He was promptly stopped and chided.)

Today, I didn’t see any cops wondering around but there are usually a few.

In the ever elusive quest for safety, I see a couple of consequences:

  • Buh-bye personal freedom. You must get permission to do pretty much anything. Seeing bars go up around schools and signs ordering the comrades, I mean, parents, exactly how and where to drop off children.
  • It trains kids that the government is responsible for their safety. This cultures a victim mentally in addition to an incredible naivety on what history teaches. (Hello? Pol Pot? Hitler?)

When education became compulsory around 100 years ago, its goals were clear: create an obedient workforce. The industrial era needed warm bodies to work in factories.

So an agenda was made between the industrialist fathers and the nascent normal school movement.

Education, but not too much. Bells to guide the day. Obey your teachers. Later, in the factory, it would be those guiding beacons along with enough money to distract them from the fact that their personal freedom and autonomy have been thrown under the bus.

In case you haven’t noticed, the industrial age is over. Kaput. Broken and outsourced.

But yet the industrial education model continues to step things up, or rather, lock things down.

Parents, wake up!  We are complicit in creating a police state.

Yeah, it’s horrible that violence occasionally affects school campuses (like it can affect anywhere there is human activity).

But the course of action we are taking has much darker outcomes, I fear.

A use for coffee you never considered

working stiffAnd no, I’m not talking about a coffee enema (ewwww!)

Those who know me understand my interests range from the quirky to, what some consider, the macabre.  Hence, my recent read of the book, Working Stiff.  Granted, I had a not-so-pleasant dream about a brain dissection but such is the price for a curious mind.

Now here’s a useless fact…one that you’ll never need, pray God.  If you’re living in an apartment building and the stench of a decomposing body is taking over the place, as decomposing bodies do, have all the tenants boil strong coffee on their stoves.

Evidently it is an effective cover for the, er, unpleasant odor.

Returning from the Y this morning, the smell of coffee greeted me.  And this is what I remembered.  Great.

Always one to spread cheer and merriment, I enlightened Jay and Caleb on this tidbit of information.  “You never know when you may need this knowledge,” I said.

I also thought there was a great teaching opportunity in there about dealing with crap immediately and not trying to cover up things.  But it was clear my audience wasn’t receptive.

Caleb muttered something about a sicko mom and left his coffee on the table.

Enlightenment is a lonely place.

 

 

I’ll be so happy when…

GAH!  I caught myself saying this aloud this morning.  To myself.  This morning it was, “I’ll be so happy when… this stupid backache goes away.”. (This TMS healing is taking time to walk out!)

How many times have I said that over the years?  I’ll be so happy when….Jay gets a raise.  The kids don’t need carseats anymore.  Winter is over. I lose weight. The flowers bloom and happiness appears like Glenda the Good Witch in her diaphanous gown and magic wand.

It ain’t gonna happen!

It’s a mindless mantra that repeats itself ad naseum, brain need not even be present.

They say the first step to getting out of a hole is to stop digging.  And so it is with mindless self-defeating mantras.  STOP IT!

Happiness is choice.  If you’re waiting for qualifying factors to play out in order to be happy, that day will never come.

I chose to be happy…right here.  Right now.

There.  I just saved you hundreds in therapy appointments.  ;)

Imagi-Nation

Ah. The magical land of Imagi-Nation.  And I betcha you’ve got more than a few stamps in your passport from your visits.

When you’re a kid – you go there to play.

When you’re an adult – you go there to worry.

If we’re honest with ourselves, most of us spend a LOT of time there.  (You also have to pack your own bags for these travels.)

I don’t know about you, but there’s other places I’d rather be.  :)

A shift in this blog

Perhaps it’s because our youngest will be finishing up school shortly – I see my focus on this blog is shifting. Oh, I’m still passionate about  free range education and love to talk to anyone who’s interested in it.   It’s a topic I’ll still visit – just less frequently.

This season in my life is focusing on mindbody topics. Having dealt with chronic pain for many years, I have been in the process of walking out my healing using a mindbody approach. (This approach doesn’t focus on “structural” issues but rather internal stuff and personality traits.)  By the way – my many years in homeschool circles have shown me that many (the majority?) HS moms deal with chronic health issues like Chronic Fatigue and Fibromyalgia.

But are these topics really disparate?  I’ve come to the conclusion: Not so much.  Both industrialized medicine or education depend upon a similar playbook, like: 

  • They’re both big bu$iness.
  • Both create passive dependents with a few people at the top making all the decisions for the majority. I’m the expert, do as I say. And don’t dare question my godhood.
  • The needs of the institution outweigh the individual. (Hello? Managed Care? And we all know how well one-size-fits-all education works for many kids.)
  • Both create consumers. (Take this pill, consume this arbitrary curriculum)
  • Perpetuate immaturity and victimhood. (There’s a diagnostic code for that! – It’s not my fault I’m an asshole. Just getting the right person in office will open a job up for me.)

Learning to live fully requires rejecting the status quo and reclaiming our freedom that was our birthright long before the Founding Fathers penned our Constitution.

Chasing your tale

Ever seen a neurotic dog chasing its tail? It’s both hilarious…and pathetic. I saw an episode one Cesar Milan that featured just this. Through his careful and patient intervention, he put an end to the dizzying frenzy.

We humans are a bit different in that we chase our tales. The stories we tell ourselves.

And if could pan out with a camera and see how much we tend to do this, we could begin to treat ourselves and each other with more kindness. Sort of like how Cesar helped Lassie settle down.

The tales we chase are stories we ruminate over and over. And over again. They serve no purpose other than to keep use preoccupied with useless, self-defeating behavior.

Pay attention to your internal narrative today. And if you’re chasing a tale – is it time for a new story?

Health risks linked to childhood trauma

As I learn more about MindBody Syndrome (MBS) or Tension Myositis Syndrome (TMS) I am continually amazed at the science behind what some consider junk science. Here’s an extremely simplified explanation of MBS/TMS – Our psyche affects our physical bodies. Eg, your chronic backache is likely rooted in heartache. (Check out Dr. John E. Sarno’s book Healing Back Pain for a primer on this fascinating topic.)

There was a study on Adverse Childhood Trauma and it’s correlation to health issues later in life. Here’s a TED talk on it:

 

Curious about what you’re score would be?  Here’s the test.

I scored 5. (Hello, fibromyalgia! And for the record, I only through out the fibro word as an identifying point. I understand fibro and most any other chronic pain issues as MBS/TMS.)

I hope the medical establishment begins to pay more attention to the on-going research. It is important for doctors to ask, “What was/is going on in your life when your symptoms started?”

Of course, the tricky part is the fact that many people don’t want to open those shadowy closet doors. It’s much easier to take a pill or become a victim. So I don’t blame a doc who IS cognizant of these things to hold his peace and reach for the Rx pad.

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