“You run our family like a business,” my son told me yesterday. He gestured to the large white board we have mounted on the wall.
It was a compliment to me but I know he wasn’t saying it with appreciation.
But it’s part of effort to keep disorganization and Shiny Object Syndrome (SOS) at bay in our home. So here’s just a few things I’ve found to help manage ADD in our home.
Use a white board. I use it to write down goals and their rewards. Hubby Jay and I also use it to brainstorm ideas and family topics we need to address. There’s something about having these things writ large in bright blue marker that turns all those bunny trails turn into a map.
Pick your battles. I could give a flying fig if my ADHD’er has nice handwriting. Unless your child has a future as a call to handwrite sacred documents like a Middle Ages Monk, I see little reason to get all worked up over this. Ditto for keeping his room clean. I shut his door and pray for his future wife. I have other issues that are more important for me on which to spend my energy.
Accept their limitations. I want to scream and pull my hair out every time I hear a mom lament their child’s lagging progress in any give area. Are YOU a good bookkeeper? Can YOU sing well? Do YOU know how to fix a car? I’m sure you answered “no” to at least one of those things. And I bet you don’t lie awake thinking about how “behind” you are.
Instead of insisting your kid has beautiful handwriting or shoes lined up neatly under his bed…why not focus on developing his wild creativity? (BTW- Creativity is spelled: M-E-S-S.) Or help him put legs on an idea to turn it into a business. (Entrepreneurship is a FABULOUS option for ADHD’ers.)
Show them options. My boy has the drive and brains of an entrepreneur. But good business management is not one of his strengths. I tell him, without condemnation, that he will need to have someone who IS good at business management help that side of his business.
Laugh. You will several years down the road looking back at these crazy days…why not do it now?
Q4U: How do you manage ADD/ADHD in your home?