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    Theresa Lode or, simply “T”, had her world turned upside down and inside out when her son was diagnosed with ADHD and a few other goodies. Her choice- follow the doctor's orders....or trust her heart and delve into the world of Free Range Education. She chose the latter...

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Is that really *just* an itch?

Or is it the first symptom of an internal malignancy?  And is that fluid in the ear making you a little spinny or (cue to forboding music) is it a sign of a brain stem stroke?

Oh-oh…lost weight lately? (even if you’re on Weight Watchers)…You’d better get your affairs in order!!!!

I don’t know about you but I get tired of being bombarded with fearful jolts from media anytime you turn around.  These last little zingers I picked up from the November issue of Consumer Reports. (“When to see a doctor” page 13)

Well if these things aren’t anxiety producing enough…check this out.  No sense giving yourself a hypochondriac check up every morning, just order one of these DNA kits and seal your fate once and for all.  For a mere $399 you can find out if you have genetic markers for such nasties as: Diabetes, Cancer, Obesity, and more!  (Wonder if they’ve found a market for malignant tempers or obnoxious personalities yet.)

My problem with these things?  I think for many of us, our response to these things is usually  FEAR.  And then consider this: In studies of patients who were told “Change or DIE” because of their heart disease, nearly 90-something percent were unable to change their lifestyles.

So, if I found out I had the genetic marker for diabetes, would that cause me to turn down the Twinkies?   Or just so “no” to Nutrasweet if Multiple Sclerosis showed up on my markers? (And she sets her Diet Coke down in between typing this. And as far as the Twinkies are concerned, I think they’re disgusting.)

Be it heath worries or Obama worries or Fill in your fear here…life is too short to spend it full of fear.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what Scripture exhorts us to do more than anything else.  It isn’t love God.  Or do good deeds.  Or preach the Gospel.

It’s FEAR NOT.

And here’s a little nugget from me…about that itch?  It really is very likely…..just an itch.

How to get a chicken

I see the chicken and the chicken sees me

I see the chicken and the chicken sees me

Living with “The Gift” creates many opportunities for memorable moments.  Like this weekend.

Jay and Daniel take a drive out of town to pick up his riding lawnmower that we stored at a friend’s house.  On the way back Shiny Object Syndrome kicked in while they were driving past a flea market.  (For the uninitiated in my world, Shiny Object Syndrome, or SOS for short, is the tendency to be distracted suddenly by any shiny object.)

I imagine it sounded something like this: “Hey Dad!  Let’s stop and look at the chickens!”

Dad: “Okay!  But we’re only looking…”

5 minutes later, Dad and Daniel are leaving with not one but TWO laying hens.

They arrive home where mom looks up from the gardening bed she is cleaning up.  Daniel, all shiny- eyed is bubbling over, “Guess what I bought?” Jay is looming with a guilty look on is face in the background.  Clucking noises are heard from the back of the truck.

“Oh my gosh.  You didn’t.  Tell me you didn’t.  Oh dear God, please no….”

More clucking noises.  Daniel retrieves the birds from the back.  Their feet are tied so they are TICKED.  You might say the birds are giving us the bird.

In the meanwhile, Libby, a springer spaniel, which by the way is a type of dog specifically bred for bird hunting, begins whimpering, hyperventilating and pointing.

“Oh tell me you didn’t…” My voice trailed into a whimper as I look at the half finished chicken coop.  In our world, many things only reach the “half finished stage.”  I’m used to it by now.

But with the dog….and the cat…I know “Lucy” and “Aunt Bea’s” lives are going to be remarkably short with the half finished coop.

And then It kicks in.  The unbelievable focus and energy Daniel has when he’s motivated.  Within 2-3 hours, the coop was finished.  Yes, the ENTIRE sack of corn feed was dumped out….but the coop was finished.

This morning, I gingerly poked my nose into the coop to see if they were still alive.  What greeted me was one of their hind ends and I was just in time to witness that indeed, they were very much alive.

Daniel followed behind me, barefoot.  “You might want to watch where you step, son,” I told him.

He gave me his heartwarming smile.  Maybe this chicken business isn’t so bad after all.

And Jay tells me to count my blessings.  That flea market had goats and rabbits too.

From the mind of Molly

And you think YOU’VE got problems?  Tee-hee…thought you’d appreciate a little humor from the mind of a creative 11-year-old.  (Sheryl- you’re going to LOVE this!)

This is a forward Molly invented.  Remember you saw it here first in case you find it in your inbox.  And if you do, for crying-out-loud—you’d better forward it!!!

if you dont forward this email, you will have constipation for
five months, followed by diarrhea for six months,
trip over a stray dog that will get mad at you and bite you on the nose,
be forced to pee in public, live in a dumpster behind the fish market for 2 months, plus also, you will get in trouble with the FBI,police, and SWAT team.and the navy. don’t ask why.  oh yeah, and this Christmas, you will get a jar of Peruvian death wasps, that unexpectedly opens after you shake it up, so they will be pretty mad. AND, the government, will look for you and you will have to be on the run for 6 months, surviving off of
locust puree and rat gut smoothies. AND, then, the world will blow up.
and you will be sailing through the galaxy FOREVER! until a extra terrestrial life form blasts your head of with a atomic missile launcher.
then, when you get to heaven, God says that you only can go to heaven if
you go through all of the above 3 times again.
so, i think you should forward this, no pressure!
just forward it to ALL your friends.


May be offline for a few days

We’re down to the dregs in our move; PHEW!  I’m not sure if the internet is ready to roll at our new place and since our Verizon aircard is useless out there we may be offline for a few days.

I am SO proud of my Daniel.  He put in the work of two men yesterday.  And between him and Jay they got all the moving done.  We had a friend come over for about an hour but other than that, he and Jay wrangled everything.

We had a few casualties of the move- namely the Roland keyboard getting dropped and the stand cracking in a few places.  Sigh.  As I watched other things get dinged and banged I repeated aloud over and over, “It’s only stuff.”

Our cells don’t work well where we’ll be so if you call, I may need to call right back on our landline.

Anywho.  That’s the report from moving land.  I am anxious to getting settled so I can hunker into my book project!

We interrupt this hiatus for a rant

Nothing like a little stupidity to shake off the gloominess of these past few days.  Is it just me or is the collective intelligence of the general population lingering somewhere in the range of a box of diapers?

I won’t reveal names because I LOVE the store that I got so frustrated with today.  And I won’t bore you with the details.  Suffice it to say I had to make a transaction that completely stumped the clerk.  “I can’t do that. Our corporate office won’t let me.”  I had CASH laying on the counter and was ready to snatch it up and walk away.  But I persisted.

“This is silly,” I said.  “I can’t do that,” she said.  She then suggested I call Jay to “get his permission” to finish the transaction.  “You’ve got to be kidding,” I replied.  All that was in me wanted to lean over the counter and knock on her head. I was convinced a hollow sound would ring.

I persisted.  “Would you get a manager?” I queried.  “He won’t be able to do anything,” she said.  “This is unbelievable,” I said.

She casually asked another clerk, explaining her quandary.  The other clerk shrugged and just said, “Oh yeah.  You just do it this way.”  Ah! A thinking soul! So the transaction was finished.

This past week, we have dealt with more intellectually challenged people than I care to count.  Minions with authority to turn what should be a SIMPLE transaction into unspeakable frustration because they lack the ability to think independently.  If I hear one more person say, “The computer does it that way” or “That’s the policy” I will scream.  But I bite my tongue knowing I must tread lightly just in case they decide NOT to turn on our power or water in the new house.

Lest you think I’m picking on clerks….fear not.  I’m an equal opportunity snark.  Jay was explaining some of the goofy decisions businesses make that defy common sense.  All too often, the consequences are costly.  And he’s seen plenty of them in his years of CPA work.

And then later….I had to get a prescription filled to encounter unbelievable hassle.  The clerk explained that the insurance had denied it…the doctor would have to explain why he ordered it.  So I called the doctor’s office and listened to the nurse explain that “this sort of thing happens all the time.”  It could take anywhere from 48-72 hours to get clearance, she said.  You’d think he had written a script for plutonium. Or something biological, say, Ebola in a Petri dish. Sweet mercy!  It’s for a stupid pain relieving ointment for my stupid ankle!

I was trying to picture my doctor, with his umpteen years of training and experience on the phone defending the prescription to a clerk who *maybe* was a vocational nursing school graduate.  And it is SHE who wields the authority to say “yes” or “no” to the doc’s treatment.  What insanity.

Yes, stupidity is running rampart and it knows no socioeconomic, educational or geopolitical boundaries.

I know I do stupid things here and there; don’t we all?  But the increasing frequency of incidents like this on terrifies me far more than the ups and downs of the stock market.  Hmmmmm.  Might there be a connection there?

A deep loss

Yesterday, Mike Tappan died.  He was a dad to me for many years and the pain of his loss is acute.  I will write more about him when I can do it without drowning the keyboard.

But for now…I ask that you pray for Carol and their three kids, Joshua, Caleb and Sarah and their families.  There are countless lives Mike as touched both here in the states and in the Philippines where he and Carol have served for over 20 years.

And because of our move this week, I won’t be around much.  I will say this though, the sorrow of Mike’s death has whittled down the stresses of this move into proper perspective.  Loving one another is truly the only thing of value in this world.

And Mike…if you’re peering down from heaven reading blogs and watching the goings on…you know we love you.  And I’m glad you’re free of pain.

Not around very much

This next week, I’ll not be around too much as we are busy getting our new place painted and then of course….the dreaded move which will be one week from Saturday.  Please send Valium and six strong young men with ADHD.  (The Valium’s for me and the guys can take care of the move.)

I am looking forward to getting settled into our new digs.  It’s a nice quiet country setting and one in which I hope to get lots of writing done.

So…see you later as time permits.  :)

Are you in a funk?

I was visiting with my good friend Joanne last night.  We were talking about those times when you’re in a funk and you can’t seem to shake out of it.  Your goals are cloudy, your motivation is confused at best.  You know where you want to go but can’t seem to get your stuff together to head there.

Sometimes a good night sleep helps.  Othertimes, we both agreed that folks can get trapped in this for extended periods of time.  And the latter can be detrimental if it’s affecting your cash flow.  (Ie, the aspiring entrepreneur who has trouble getting his plan off the ground.)

It’s discouraging and after a while staying in such a pattern becomes a negative self-fulfilling prophecy.

So, wadda do?  Joanne and I could save the world, (if people would only listen to us,) and here’s our quick and dirty solution to breaking out of a funk.  Ready?  It’s really profound. Are you sure?  Okay….here we go….

WORK.

What?  Disappointing you say?  Well, it’s worked for us.

Joanne was saying how when she gets trapped in a funk a good housing cleaning may jar things back into focus for her.  And I commented about my little dishwashing job last year.

I hired on at an upscale restaurant to wash dishes for special events.  It was wonderful and provided some unexpected bonuses like a REALLY good night’s sleep.  (Trust me, slinging around stacks of commercial baking sheets and trays of glasses is physical work.)

But it also allowed me to shake off the cobwebs in my head.  And then there was the satisfaction of seeing a job well done.  (Staying at home all the time gets discouraging because my work is frequently undone by my three “helpers” within minutes. ;) )

Additionally, I have a tendency to nitpick and stew over issues I have no control over and dealing with it by physical labor is by far my most effective tool.

Because so much of our lives are spent behind computers and other technology today, I think it’s easy to forget the value of a good sweat to clear the head.

I need to keep this in mind as we work feverishly these next few weeks on our move.  ;) By the end of it, I should have amazing clarity on EVERYTHING!

Wal Mart valet service!

And this-under the “Who are they kidding business briefs”-The Nolensville Wal Mart in middle Tennessee is offering free valet service on the weekends.

After reading this, I considered my brief trip into Wally World yesterday to buy some paint.  Let’s see…there was the worker loudly storming down the aisle complaing about the “f’ing people she was sick of working with” or then there was the somnambulate clerk behind the paint counter  who kept looking at his watch.  Or the bloated, pasty faced checker whose movements mirrored those of a recent nature film we watched on “Sloths”.  The manager with the bright pink spiked hair and more chains that the ghost of Christmas past.

And this was on a good day.  Throw in the morbidly obese navigating the aisle in their scooters, baskets overflowing with Cheetos and I begin looking for the hidden cameras.  Surely I’ve stumbled upon the set of some wickedly funny satirical program.

Yes, perhaps that’s what is it!  Yes, yes!  The valet service is just an added element in their schtick.

Makes me wonder who’s going to be accepting the car keys.

And what does this have to do with my mini series of the diagnosing process of kids’ special needs? Absolutely nothing.

“Ah don’t like you!”

Who likes dealing with criticism?  I sure don’t and I’ll admit—it sometimes bug me more that I should allow it to.  Sarah Palin as been a class act in dealing with criticism; I admire her moxy.

Listening to Dave Ramsey today  warmed my heart and encouraged me in how to react calmly and firmly with criticism.

Some woman called in and started frothing at the mouth.  When she finally got to the point she said, “Ah don’t like you!”  (She had a deep south accent.)  She went on to rail and rant.  All of America went on to learn of her good Southern Baptist roots which REALLY made me cringe.  Religion is so very ugly.

Anyway.  It was half funny…and half disgusting.  But Dave took it like a real champ and encouraged the woman to get the help she obviously needed.  (He was NOT being patronizing, BTW.)  He went on to talk about how they “bale” the piles of hate mail he regularly receives.

Good lesson to a gal who gets overly sensitive at times.

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