Got teenagers? We have three running around our house now. When I say that, most parents will respond with sympathy or fear as they mutter, “uh-oh.”
We love having teens. I love watching them grow into young adults and begin stretching their wings.
But that also means we have conflict too. Okay…that part I don’t like much. Which is why I found myself thinking about this gem of a sentence. I’ve even practiced it so I have it ready when it’s needed.
Ready? It goes something like this. Johnny is telling you he know longer wishes to do his daily responsibilities. A burst of anger flashes through your mind as you recall the amount of work you do on a daily basis for the Little Ingrate. Gawd, my back hurts just thinking about it. You wonder if there’s a black market for teenagers. Contemplate dropping the kid off a boot camp. This flies through your mind quicker than that Who died question when the phone rings at 2AM.. (Okay, maybe it’s just MY mind.)
But thankfully, instead of engaging in a power play, you’ve got this gem of a sentence up your sleeve. Here ’tis:
I love you too much to argue with you. Or it could be: I respect you too much to argue with you.
And then you walk away. (And a hearty thank you for Love and Logic for their great support!)
Have you ever won a power struggle when tempers are flaring? Go, cool down, pull yourself together and deal with junior later.
This is something I’m working on right now and I gotta tell you…it IS effective.