Wondering how to homeschool your hyperactive wonder? Please note that I did not title this “How to Homeschool Your ADHD’er.” Anymore, “how to” articles make me nervous. How to lose weight. How to be happy. How to….. Everyone person is different and while one may learn some tidbits from someone else’s journey, there is no roadmap. No easy 1-2-3 formula. If someone tells you else wise, they’re selling something.
Now that we got that out of the way- here’s a few things I’ve learned in homeschooling my kids, one of whom was diagnosed with ADHD many years ago.
Know your child. If you have more than one child, you can recall how different each one felt the first time you held them in your arms. (Or moms, how about when you were pregnant with them?) This seems like such a basic thing but yet I still hear parents say, “Well, I really don’t know what my kid likes.” HUH? Stop everything, clear your overloaded calendar and schedule some lavish amounts of time with your kid. I’ll just be standing over here by the water cooler to finish our chat later.
Understand their wiring. Yeah, this is sort of a rehash of my first point. Consider their personality traits. Is your kid a natural leader who needs a small island nation to rule or is he more of a contemplative thinker with a heart to serve others from behind the scenes? This is also helpful in understanding your OWN wiring! What motivates you may not motivate your child (and it may even frustrate them.) I urge you to check out my friend Deb’s website: My Wired Style. It will be money well spent to use her DISC survey. Please. Go. Do. This.
Cultivate their strengths. This is especially important if your child is fresh from public school where the “you’re defective” message has been received loud and clear. The aim of school is to remediate so called deficiencies so your child can fit the norm (whatever the hell that means,) so the school can measure up on the standardized tests.
Begin with the end in mind. That’s my favorite Stephen Covey axiom. The end in mind for public schools is: Every kid must go to college. I trust you already understand the folly of this well intended but short sighted approach. If your kid is obsessed with Legos, see if you can’t find him a mentor in the building industry. Is Johnny fascinated by how things work; his future may include an apprenticeship. Is Sally a natural born sales leader? Cultivate that important skill! Load her up on Zig Ziglar books. Get a real estate agent who knows how to close the deal to spend some time with her.
As you can see, these things are not rocket science. More tomorrow!
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