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    Theresa Lode or, simply “T”, had her world turned upside down and inside out when her son was diagnosed with ADHD and a few other goodies. Her choice- follow the doctor's orders....or trust her heart and delve into the world of Free Range Education. She chose the latter...

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The extraordinary in the ordinary

This is a funky time of year for me.  January is my least favorite month and February, comes next (its chief redemptive quality lies in its brevity.)  Cold, gray days of sameness that stretch into more of….the same.   Bleck!

It’s easy during these days for me to wake up with a “ho-hum.”  Another day….more sameness.  Count the days until spring.

This morning my thoughts went in another direction.  I thought of some friends that who are dealing with some difficult circumstances.  I remembered the difficulty of this past December.   I thought of other times of waiting….for test results….for a phone call….a job offer…

And I remember that it was in those times I wasn’t desiring the exotic.  The stuff that I think would bring fulfillment and happiness: A trip to Italy.  Playing in the Ocean.  More money.  Being thinner.  More…

No.  It was the ordinary that I wanted.  The mundane.  The clatter of dishes in the kitchen and the noise of kids in the other room.  And who cares if the checkbook balance is teetering on the edge….we’ve been there before and survived.   What I want is another cup of coffee with Jay on my stained, too-soft couch that needs to be replaced. Or a telephone chat with my sisters or friend.

I can’t say my revelation is going to cause me to gleefully anticipate the winter days.  But it does remind me of the importance of seasons and yes, even the sameness of them. Like them or not, I need January.

Because it teaches me to find the extraordinary in the ordinary.

What ever happened to self reliance?

I rarely watch the morning blither blather reports but I did this morning. I was taken aback by the amount of victim talk on each of the stories.  Either it was Obama promising how he was going to take care of us or the young lady, standing in the middle of the snow packed street wailing, “They ain’t doing nothing yet.” (Snow removal wasn’t taking place quickly enough evidently.)

What ever happened to self reliance? Had it not occurred to this healthy and vibrant looking gal to find a shovel or perhaps check to see if her elderly neighbors needed help?  Wait—don’t answer that.  We know already.

I think our need for self reliance  gets eroded slowly and insidiously beginning in childhood with, “Don’t!” and “Let me do that for you!” (Spoken by well meaning moms such as myself.)   The pace is then picked up exponentially in the schooling process where following instructions and waiting for your turn are the modus operandi.  (I can still remember the ominous warning on tests: “Don’t pick up your pencils until your instructed to do so!”)

Why on earth would one want to stand out when independent thought and initiative is frowned upon, nay, penalized?  We have been well trained.

I think the greatest tragedy of the day isn’t the economy or the unemployment statistics.  Rather it’s the helplessness of so many because they’re waiting for someone to tell them what to do.

Or to come shovel their street.

An Ansel Adams sort of day

adams-ansel-tenaya-creek-dogwood-rain-yosemite-1948That’s what I was thinking when I was looking out the widow.  Granted, this photo’s from Yosemite so the trees are different from here in Middle Tennessee.  But the gray is the same…only the sepia color leaves break the monochromatic hills.  Occasionally, a Cardinal or a Blue Jay bring a splash of color.  And how grateful I am for the Robins that hang out here year round!

But I can’t complain in the midst of the grayness.  Temps are lingering in single and sub zero digits back in Montana and the Midwest is getting pounded with snow. It will be 65 blessed degrees here today.

But still….this girl is looking forward to spring.

Are you in a funk?

I was visiting with my good friend Joanne last night.  We were talking about those times when you’re in a funk and you can’t seem to shake out of it.  Your goals are cloudy, your motivation is confused at best.  You know where you want to go but can’t seem to get your stuff together to head there.

Sometimes a good night sleep helps.  Othertimes, we both agreed that folks can get trapped in this for extended periods of time.  And the latter can be detrimental if it’s affecting your cash flow.  (Ie, the aspiring entrepreneur who has trouble getting his plan off the ground.)

It’s discouraging and after a while staying in such a pattern becomes a negative self-fulfilling prophecy.

So, wadda do?  Joanne and I could save the world, (if people would only listen to us,) and here’s our quick and dirty solution to breaking out of a funk.  Ready?  It’s really profound. Are you sure?  Okay….here we go….

WORK.

What?  Disappointing you say?  Well, it’s worked for us.

Joanne was saying how when she gets trapped in a funk a good housing cleaning may jar things back into focus for her.  And I commented about my little dishwashing job last year.

I hired on at an upscale restaurant to wash dishes for special events.  It was wonderful and provided some unexpected bonuses like a REALLY good night’s sleep.  (Trust me, slinging around stacks of commercial baking sheets and trays of glasses is physical work.)

But it also allowed me to shake off the cobwebs in my head.  And then there was the satisfaction of seeing a job well done.  (Staying at home all the time gets discouraging because my work is frequently undone by my three “helpers” within minutes. ;) )

Additionally, I have a tendency to nitpick and stew over issues I have no control over and dealing with it by physical labor is by far my most effective tool.

Because so much of our lives are spent behind computers and other technology today, I think it’s easy to forget the value of a good sweat to clear the head.

I need to keep this in mind as we work feverishly these next few weeks on our move.  ;) By the end of it, I should have amazing clarity on EVERYTHING!

A bear gone bad

Should I be concerned about my children?  Yesterday they decided that Pooh Bear had been turned over to the “dark side”.  Body piercings and a criminal streak (such as stalking Rabbit) became the new hallmarks of the former “bear of little brain” now referred to as the “bear of violent impulses”.

Then later I found a beanie baby stuffed into applesauce jar that was filled with water.  I had a grisly flashback to 10th grade biology.  “What is this?” I roared.

Molly fessed up.  Then she and Caleb began roaring with laughter.  The beanie had been sent to its watery prison for beating up the other beanies.

Since we don’t watch TV, there certainly not getting it from there.  Oh wait.  I do corrupt them….we love James Bond movies.

And then again there’s the little fantasies I entertain from time to time.  The kind where I’m taking a rude clerk by a tuft of their spiked hair and…..oh, never mind.  I guess they come by it naturally.

Nature of the beast, I suppose.

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