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    Theresa Lode or, simply “T”, had her world turned upside down and inside out when her son was diagnosed with ADHD and a few other goodies. Her choice- follow the doctor's orders....or trust her heart and delve into the world of Free Range Education. She chose the latter...

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You are called to be an artist

Here’s an excerpt from my favorite poem, A Psalm of Life by Longfellow.  (If you’ve received an email from you, you’ll recognize the “Lives of great men” line as I use in in my signature.)

Lives of great men all remind us
We can make our lives sublime,
And, departing, leave behind us
Footprints on the sands of time ;

This poem came to mind as I was thinking of all the great people who have inspired me.  There are many- from writers to artists to musicians. And then there’s the other artists that we don’t really consider artists.   The smiling clerk who excels at customer service.  The mechanic who intuits what’s wrong with your car and fixes it at a reasonable cost. The friend with the listening ear or the compassionate mama who nurtures her babies.

Consider:

“He should sweep streets so well that all the host of heaven and earth will pause to say, ‘Here
lives a great street-sweeper who did his job well’.”
— Martin Luther King Jr.

Sadly, in our conformity driven educational models, we marginalized, (and label,)  people who aren’t strong academically.  We obsess over teaching them history when what they need is an opportunity to shine in the area of their unique strengths.

We do a great disservice to insist that every child be on track for college.  And in the process we also kill off the artist inside.

The world is robbed of the distinctive and life giving talents it so desperately needs.

True education must first begin with the question: Who am I? And from there proceed to: What are my passions? and then…What do I need to learn so I can become the best at whatever I do?

The doing flows out of the being.  What a beautiful way to watch the artist in our kids come forth.

Standardized minds

There is a new policy at Molly’s school innocuously called, “Not There Yet.”   It mandates a minimum 80% on all tests and quizzes for 7th and 8th graders.  Is it a stretch to imagine that this policy is driven by the Tennessee Comprehensive Assessment Program? (TCAP)

Failure to obtain an 80% results in a mandatory “remediation” session after school until the 80% is obtained.  Failure to do that results in a three hour detention.  By gosh by golly…This kids WILL learn!

So what’s wrong with this?  Shouldn’t this assure me my child is in a quality educational program?   Isn’t the “Not There Yet” campaign part of an effort to ensure children are absorbing the material?

How much time do you have?

When I think of the children that will never be test takers or the boys who need to work with their hands or the creative souls that need expression…it sickens me to think THIS is how they will judged.

Standardized testing is an irrelevant measurement tool and is not a predictor of future success.

Unless of course you’re looking to train a population who knows how to obey and regurgitate information.  And to focus on test scores as the Holy Grail of academic achievement is as foolish as preparing our kids for a job market that was last seen hoofing it to India.

Yes, a baseline of academic material is important, especially in the technical age we live in. (And I could argue about HOW that information is obtained but that is for another day.) But more accurate indicators of success include qualities like: Creativity, likeability, and ingenuity. And what about life skills such as cooking from scratch or building a house?  And what about curiosity?

These are things that will never be measured on a standardized test and I contend:

The mind is a terrible thing to standardize.


It’s not about schooling

A classroom is an especially difficult place for a wiggly kid.  And what a challenge for a teacher who feels the pressure to make sure all the kids perform well on the prerequisite tests.

The agenda of public schools is quite simple: Educate the children well (as demonstrated through good grades) so they can go to college (and get good grades) to the ultimate end of getting a good job. (“So, how’s that working for you?” Dr. Phil asks the unemployed IT guy.)

I think most folks can agree that the goal to have well educated children is laudable.  The differences start to arise though, in how we quantify a successful education.

Sadly, the measures used in public education are quite limited and conformity driven.  (Think achievement tests and grades.)

To corral kids by their age group and insist they all perform at the same level academically is not unlike how a factory assembly line works.  Set them on the conveyor belt when they’re five and pick them up twelve years down the road.

That approach may work for autos but it’s a disaster for children.  They are not empty-headed, future people needing an ongoing data dump as they proceed down the line. They are individuals with specific wiring and giftings.  And quite often, they are on their own time schedule.  (Ha- Try to run an assembly line like that!)

I hurt for kids….especially the boys… that don’t do well on the tests.  Who have trouble sitting still while the teachers lectures on a subject that bores them to tears.

And even more so…buries the identity of a child whose goal in life becomes fitting in.  This is a nasty brew that will simmer until a midlife crisis 40 years down the road or so when a person realizes they have no idea of who they are and the dreams have long gone died.

My reasons for homeschooling have changed over the years.  Lately, I am grateful for the opportunity to continue to homeschool Daniel because I am watching him emerge as a confident young man who knows who he is.

(And it’s not because I’m such a spectacular teacher or amazing mom…trust me when I say it is in spite of my shortcomings.)

Homeschooling has allowed Daniel time to sort through his interests.  And to discover himself.  It’s an important life skill and one, if statistics are an indication, something we’ve not done well at developing in school- because most people are unhappy in their work/careers.

Dan Miller, a successful career coach, tells folks that the most important step to finding work they love is to first look within and discover who they are.  He contends the vast majority of energy spent in a job search, 85%, should be on looking within…before sending out the resumes.

Recently, Daniel went to lunch with a local radio announcer.  A very successful man with an international audience, I was humbled by this man’s kindness to indulge Daniel and his invitation to lunch.

Replying to a thank you note I emailed to him, he said this of his visit with Daniel:

Daniel is different from others…He knows he’s different, and when I asked him if he was at peace with himself and if he was comfortable with who he is, Daniel responded, “Absolutely.”  That is very refreshing to hear…

And it was refreshing for me to read his kind words.

We homeschool moms think our kid’s future lies in picking the right curriculum or doing things “right.”  It’s a road I’ve traveled many times…and the destination is always the same: Fear and worry!

And then I’m reminded. It’s not about the right curriculum or how your child is schooled.   It’s all about trusting our kids- and their identity- to God.  Just give it time.  Nurture their individuality.

And enjoy the journey…

I’ve thrown my kids to the devil

Thrown them into the pit…cast their souls to perdition.  Or at least that’s what this article suggested.

I read it in a homeschool magazine; the author’s opinion was quite clear: If you put your kids in public school, you are rejecting “Godly” teaching and indoctrinating your child in the world.  (And hence you’re in disobedience to God.)  You’re on a slippery slope!  And next thing you know, the kids won’t want to go to church and then they’ll turn away from God, get body piercings, tats and run with people named, “Spike” who has the a vanity plate on his pimp mobile that says, “PlaaaBoy.”

Oh Puh-leez.  I am SO over the Public School is the Boogey Man.  I am SO over every Christian parent MUST educate their children at home.  I am SO over it all.

The approach this man took in the article is not unfamiliar to me:  State fearful statistics…quote a few highly disturbing articles of evil liberals trying to get homosexual agendas into the classroom and in short….remove any options for education beyond a Bob Jones, honest-to-God, King-Jimmy- approved-homeschool-education.  (Gee, too bad about those stress related health issues, mama.)

Don’t forget to throw in the Scriptures that support Worldy vs. Biblical views.  (As interpreted by the American Religious Association Code of Behavior.)

Finally….the script offers the promise to the faithful:   Do all these things and your kids will follow God and your home will be free from stress and the evils of the world.  And they all lived happily ever after.

Uh huh.  (Can you say, “Embittered, disappointed believer?”)

Now, I’m not writing about this to start a spitting match on what education model is better than another. Every kid is different…every family….every school.

For the record, I personally do not agree with the model the public schools follow.  And I hope that I am always clear in my distinction between “The System” versus the hard working, devoted teachers that teach there.  (And yes, I know there are some bad teachers out there, okay?)

Nor do I think homeschooling is a good option for some families.  In a perfect world, right?

This is about that wonderful, freeing, God given gift called CHOICE.

When my daughter first approached me about attending public school, it challenged me.  She called me on something that I’d always given lip service to.  That, each year we would decide to home school or not for the upcoming year.

This article highlights some of my objections to government schooling but now I look past the rhetoric and see a butt-load of fear, hyperbole and control behind it.  And we set up a stranglehold of immovable boundaries.  It sounds something like this:

We must keep our children home at all costs.  Remove any choices from them.  And in the still of the night when you’re staring wide eyed at the ceiling….hope to God it all works out okay.  And gee.  Too bad about that migraine; but we all know that Saxon Math is tHE WAY to go, right?

Oh, bleck, bleck, BLECK!  Did you notice “trusting peacefully in God” never enters into this picture?

Releasing our children to make some choices….even if I don’t agree with the choice….is, what I believe is a healthy step toward teaching them about the grace of God.  (Now don’t go an email me that it’s stupid to allow a six-year-old to play in traffic.  That IS stupid and it’s not what I’m talking about.)

The grace of God does not order me to a live a certain lifestyle.  Nor does it order me to convince you to live the same way I feel I must live.  It is an invitation to a relationship whereby changes occur that are more organic than an overpriced apple at Whole Foods.

The grace of God says perfect love casts out all fear.  The grace of God says, Jump in and find me in every circumstances….yea verily….find me in the heart of a devoted teacher, who, btw….is also frustrated with the system.

The grace of God says, Let’s sit down and talk about your decisions.  Let’s talk about the bad ones….the good ones….and then let me help you walk through the consequences.

It’s a scary and empowering journey to embark on.  Instead of learning to follow the do’s and don’ts …I’m learning to follow His voice and trusting my kids to do the same.

A child who is unafraid of making choices will become a powerful adult.

And for right now, it means embarking on a journey with my kids I would never have imagined.  And we’ll explore it together…

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